The Point of the Season of Singleness

Everyone has wished for a significant other at some point in their lives. I myself have always thought, “How much longer until I can get a boyfriend?” Or, “What's the good in being single?” Thankfully, God heard my thoughts and revealed the reason for my singleness. He’s placed books, sermons, podcast episodes and so much more along my path. Here’s all that I’ve learned.

Remember: YOU’RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!

In relationships you:

1.Communicate

We get to know about and understand our partners when we communicate with them. The main way we can communicate with God is through prayer. Unlike our worldly partners, He’s always around. He wants you to talk to Him about everything. Your stress & worries(Psalm, 66:19, Psalm 145:18-19, 1 Peter 5:7), an important decision, or even the funny movie that you just finished watching. He’s interested in hearing even the smallest of details. He loves you that much.

2.Please

In relationships, you seek what pleases/makes your partner happy. In doing this, you show love and interest, which will make them feel appreciated and valued. We can seek out what pleases God by reading the word. Some things we can do that please God are: worshipping Him, loving others, following His commandments, etc(1 Corinthians 5:9-11, Hebrews 11:4-6, 1 John 3:22).
As we strive to please God, we cannot remain in our old, fleshly ways. We must walk in the new life that He has gifted us (Romans 8:8).

3.Spend time with each other

To get to know your partner on a deeper level, you’ll have to spend time with each other. You cannot grow your relationship without doing so. God is always available, so don’t be distant (James 4:8, Psalm 145:18, John 15:4). A way we can spend time with God is by reading His word and talking to him through prayer. Acknowledge Him and involve him in activities such as work.

4.Prioritize

God should be #1 in your life. Putting Him first will take sacrifice. We’ll have to move things around in our lives to make time for Him. Wasy that you can prioritize Him are: talking to Him first thing in the morning and last thing before bed, reading His word in the mornings, making specialized time for Him, listening to music that glorifies Him, etc. This isn’t all in vain, for God cares for and loves you deeply (Proverbs 3:6, Matthew 6:33, John 3:30).

5.Go all-in

When you enter a relationship, you're fully immersed into it. You don't dip your toe in and randomly decide that your out. You both will go through trials and tribulations that will make your relationship and connection stronger. We shouldn't make a decision to be with God and then one day choose the world over Him just because we felt like it. We should stay loyal to Him, just as He is to us. (Revelations 3:16, 1 John 2:15-16, James 4:4)

The book Single. Dating. Engaged. Married. has taught me that God has given me singleness so that I can focus entirely on Him. My singleness should be characterized by 1 Corinthians 7:33-34, being anxious to please the Lord.

This book has also revealed that I need to have a strong relationship with God before I can move on to another one. If I don't have a solid source of love (God), I'll end up having high expectations for someone who can't hold up to them. I'll put myself in the center of the relationship rather than serving to please them. God is pouring out his love onto me so that I can in return pour love out onto others.

I thank God that He sent his son down to die on the cross for our sins so that we may have a close, intimate relationship with him. By accepting Christ, we have entered a covenant relationship with God. By opening up the word of God, you’ll see how much He loves and cares for us. Just as the Lord is attentive to your words, wishes, and desires, do the same and pursue activities that please Him.